Tue. Jul 16th, 2024

Apparently Social Justice Warriors have a problem with #EyeRape.

Defined as when a man stares at a woman in a non-platonic way, and when the guy is not hot like #JamieDornan, eyerape is a blatant form of sexual harassment, one suggesting a rapey power trip that makes women feel violated.

However, there’s one problem with treating eyerape as a legitimate form of sexual harassment—it’s an inherently racist invention, created by white women who want to justify their disinterest in Black men, Latinos, Muslims and any other man who doesn’t have a face that meets their minimum standard of beauty.

Not only is it a racist institution, it’s also one that celebrates vanity—as in only a man of exceptional genetic gifts should be allowed to look at a woman for longer than one second. Beyond that, he is forcing her to interact with him, as a person, when in fact he is an ugly second class citizen not worthy of a conversation.

Never mind the fact that ogling, smiling and ”vicious eyes” are relative, and difficult to evaluate within a few seconds. Can we really say that we can discern a person’s true motives when they are staring at us?

Who’s to say that one man’s smile is not platonic, or even non-sexual? Perhaps the accused pervert is trying to determine if he recognizes the woman, or is gauging whether or not she’s actually attractive to him and thus worthy of his full attention.

It may be difficult for some men to ascertain whether a passing woman is actually beautiful, or if she’s just blown so much makeup and hairstyling, and is so proudly showcasing her boobs, that she’s giving off a false pheromone signal.

“Ohh wait, your disinterest in me indicates you don’t want me to hit on you. You just want to feel empowered and sexy by wearing that sexy dress. Sorry, my bad. I thought that your clothing was about me, not about you. Okay, cool so I will refrain from sending out my mating signals to you any longer.”


Ugly Man.

So is the man actually leering at her face and or body, or is he simply confused at the pheromone signal and trying to determine whether or NOT he should pursue her?

Perhaps an “eye confrontation”, however uncomfortable at first, is actually a protection for the woman. If a man stares at her for a few seconds and does NOT get back any receptive signals, he will get the message loud and clear (“I’m not interested”) and will leave her alone.

If he continues to harass and pursue her, then he is revealing himself 100 percent as a harasser of women, and regardless of color. He deserves to be shamed, maced, shot, and pissed on, as far as I’m concerned.

But what we should be teaching men is the obligation to leave a woman alone once she shows disinterest, and NOT to shame them simply for looking and making a move.

If every man would STOP at dramatic eye confrontation, (aka the “eyerape”) and NOT keep pursuing women who put out “NO!” signals, there’s no question society would be better for it.

Dramatic eye confrontation is only “eyerape” when it is followed up by aggressive sexual bullying, forced dating, or similarly coercive methods. Eyerape is eyerape when it is used as a tactic BY RAPISTS.

Of course, the racist Social Justice Warrior response would be that men should never stare at, approach, or engage with women unless their exceptional good looks and social proof precedes them. For example, “It’s OK to eyerape me if you’re Dwayne Johnson or Channing Tatum. Otherwise, just don’t talk to me, you ugly, disgusting freak.”

Oh wait, OK because he’s white and hot!

Such an attitude smells like only one thing: closeted racism and bigotry of lesser fortunate men—usually poverty stricken men, who only know how to pursue women in one way: by flirting and not by bragging about their money or fame. Because how else does a man show interest in a woman if not by making eye contact?

Some uncomfortable eye tension may also come from the simple fact that different cultures have different ways of communicating feelings through eyes, mouths, facial movements and other body language.

A Black or Hispanic man may not smile at you the same way as a white man—especially if the white man has more dating experience with white women and has been exposed to mainstream and wealthy United States culture more so than minorities who haven’t had the same opportunities. Muslim immigrants may not understand the subtle nuances that white women usually require from their suitors.

What you perceive as a black man eyeraping you, may actually just be a black man giving you what he thinks is a “friendly, flirty look.”

That you immediately dismiss his stare as attempted rape is as racist an attitude as I’ve ever encountered.

Yes, it’s sad how many men today have no idea how to flirt and who resort to autistic rage episodes just to get a woman’s attention. Or, who stare at a woman’s bosom for seconds on in, proving his “powerful heterosexual desire” (as dating coaches call it) and hoping that he’ll think of some funny Joey Tribbiani-esque thing to say (which never happens).

There is only so much forgiveness that Muslim men, Latino men, Asian men and African men can ask for, when it comes to being disrespected by white women and equated with rapists just because they dare to look.

Jerry Seinfeld and George Constanza said it best. “There was cleavage in the area so we look. We’re like some kind of weird fish where the eyes operate independently of the head.”

If you’re serious about making eyerape a thing, then start holding good looking white movie stars accountable when they make intense, Christian Grey-esque eye contact with you. Is the only reason you don’t mind when they do it, is because they’re rich, handsome and white?

I for one know I can’t even count how many times Kevin Spacey eyeraped me on that godawful show, “House of Cards.”

OMG stop it!

Lastly, I have to wonder: if you give me a look that says, “Oh stop eyeraping me!” am I allowed to give you a rebuttal look that says, “I resent that implication and am eye-suing you for defamation of facial character”?

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4 thoughts on “Is Eyerape a Real Thing Or Is Intolerance of Staring Closeted Racism?”
  1. I have never heard of the term, “eyerape,” However, I do know that in many cultures, including many European cultures, men stare. It can be uncomfortable when anyone looks at you too long, but really? Rape?

    To me, this is one more thing that minimizes the actual act of rape. And I’m sick of this attitude where one’s cultural sensitivities becomes the mandate for others. Especially, when women use this and minimize actual rape. For Christ sakes it’s damned time women stopped being so f’ing sensitive and put their big girl panties on. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable, tell them. Stop becoming such willing victims over every little thing that you actually CAN control, if you address it.

    Rape is a serious act of violence. It’s not something that just makes the victim feel uncomfortable. “Eyerape” sounds like an excuse for some cultures to feel superior to others. If that’s the case, can I have every white s.o.b. that believes in “friends with benefits” and suggested it when I was single, arrested for raping my morality? Can we put Trump in prison for raping my ears with his continual vulgarity expressed towards women?

    Let’s stop this b.s. where we try to assault society with one cultural mandate for all. It is bigoted, vulgar and worse than that, at times it minimizes real issues.

  2. Jennifer, I agree with so many of your points, especially the statement, “when women use this and minimize actual rape.” In kicking up dust over real and imagined liberties in sexual encounters, we distract attention away from those who have been coerced and forced into unwilling acts that violated their bodies. We distract from their trauma, making it sound like a weeping contest.

    We aren’t empowering women by teaching them to run and tell every time a man says something inappropriately, makes an uninvited sexual advance, or “eye rapes”. We aren’t teaching them how to stand up and respond firmly, delivering their no-interest message. It’s time to run when he doesn’t get the hint even though you told him straight to his face to stay away from you. Otherwise, fight your own battles. You’ll be stronger for it.

    The whole eye-rape thing doesn’t seem weird to me. At one time, we called it “leering”, and men who leered were often nasty little creatures if they were able to get you in a back corner, but women of wisdom managed to avoid being alone with them. I can’t recall that leering was attached to any particular race. It seemed to me a personality trait that skipped randomly through men.

    I think it’s probably another reason why we need to develop our self reliance as women. If we can’t learn to “read” someone through eye contact, facial expression and body language, we are losing a valuable skill that would aid us in developing a successful career as well as assist us in our every day lives. As women, do we really wish to be pampered, mollycoddled, given a pair of glasses to view a rose covered garden, or was our fight for equality so we could prove that we are capable of living in a man’s world and relating to men one on one?

  3. One more point I would like to add. Having lived in various countries, there is something to the idea that leering at another human being can also be confused for a rather common behavior of many in other countries as staring at you so that you will initiate conversation. In Central America, for instance, people often stare at you if you are alone in a room, because they want to talk. It looks like they are leering at you, but it is actually quite different. There may be an element of attraction, but when you meet eyes, that generally begins conversation. And humans being the social animals that we are, we crave communication. It’s why prisoners locked up in PC status for too long have profound psychological reactions.

  4. “Eyerape” now? It doesn’t surprise me. I read that owning a dog now makes you racist. I don’t know how much more of this liberal defecation I can take. It’s the reason that I moved away from liberalism and moved toward conservativism.

    Now women are “making love to the Earth” and even “marrying the Earth.”. I guess one sure way for me to get laid again is to change my name to “The Earth.”. Of course, I must be sure not to gaze too long at a woman whom I find exceedingly beautiful. I don’t want to be accused of “eyerape. ‘

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