A man that exerts influence over others is considered commanding and is exalted by those under him; a woman doing the same is considered either a bitch or a dyke and becomes reviled by those under her. When society sees a woman with a man twice her age, the statement of belief the majority of society has is that the woman is a gold digger. When society sees a man with a woman twice his age, the question that society asks itself is “how much is she paying him?”
August 2004: The Vatican releases the document “Letter to the Bishops of the Catholic Church on the Collaboration of Men and Women in the Church and in the World” where “women should be respected and have equal rights in the workplace, but differences between the sexes must be recognized and maintained… The obscuring of the difference or duality of the sexes has enormous consequences on a variety of levels.” The document also blames feminists for “undermining” the traditional concept of family and creating a climate where questions are raised against the family in its natural two-parent structure of mother and father and making homosexuality and heterosexuality virtually equivalent.
June 2006: News that in China parents are using genetic selection in order to ensure the birth of boys sparks a worldwide debate on the science of genetics. The same report also states that women are opting to terminate pregnancies when it is determined that the sex of the fetus is female.
March 2009: Afghani President, Hamid Karzai has either passed or is in the act of passing legislation that makes it illegal for a wife to refuse sex to her husband. The same piece of legislation grants custodial rights to fathers and grandfathers.
In an age where the ideal of gender equality is professed to be not only attainable but a right why do these examples of negation of that ideal exist? Perhaps this is the explanation.
It is not that men abhor women, but expressing domination over the female is not enough. Power comes from the ability to create – men have only the knowledge of destruction: For man to ‘create’ paper, a tree has to be destroyed and its fragments are strewn from the wooden body. For a man to ‘create’ a nuclear reaction, a wholeness of an atom must be split. Even the act of a man giving a woman a flower to ‘create’ the act of devotion a man must sever that flower from the roots that nourished its life. A woman, on the other hand, within her womb combines two pieces of genetic material into one new being – she becomes God, she determines both consciously and unconsciously the path that new being will take.
The power of true creation will never be that of men. For this indignity, possibly the one few truths consistent throughout the ages of human evolution, men are behooved to rein those who could reign over those who crave to be the flesh carved image of that which controls the rain. How hard have the men tried to take this power away from women; test tubes, artificial insemination, genetic selection, all minute pieces of the power of true creation yet the one thing that mystifies men though the physiology is purported to be known: the womb of a woman. With all of man’s scientific interventions in the world of the development of a child the womb is still necessary to encourage the thriving of that being even if the sterile arena of a lab is where the beginning may have taken place. This basic premise negates the claim that men are the mirror of omnipotence; this bars the world of men from truly ruling over all that can be seen. This is the reason that the male expression of dominance is not enough; women must be made to believe in their subservience lest the patriarchal façade that feeds a man’s ego is lost. Let there be no mistake, women will always be undeserving in the patriarchal world that surrounds the globe today.
It is time for women to realize that the ideal of equality is just that – unattainable by passive aggressive methods. Women must realize that to be considered an equal in the patriarchal diorama of the world is to lead to their undoing. Boudicca, a Celtic queen led her people to victory over the Roman bid to conquer for years. In the end she took her own life as she faced a Roman General in one final bid to push the Romans from her home and saw her people, including her two daughters, slaughtered. Cleopatra, Queen of Egypt, took her own life rather than face the shame she had brought for her loss against the Roman Emperor Augustus Caesar. Joan D’Arc, fought fiercely and brought to power the man she thought to be the true ruler of France, Charles VII. In the end, Joan was captured by the English to be tortured raped and then burned at the stake. Indira Gandhi attempted to bring India into a state of peace, harmony and prosperity. She instituted the first family planning matrix for the area; any man with two children was to be sterilized in order to curb the population explosion that was tearing India apart. She was murdered by two men that had been there to be her body guards. All were equal to their male counterparts and that led to their deaths for men eliminate their perceived equals from competition to be the alpha male in their territory.
Men for all the words spoken have no respect for those who believe in compromise for comprising is admitting weakness or a stall until they are in better position to deliver the death strike. Men do not see them as part of a whole; they are and always have seen themselves as individuals that only bow and heed to those who they know they cannot defeat. For women to gain equality they first must prove superiority, to break the ego of a man to the point he becomes to see himself as a mere possession just as far too many women perceive themselves as. Women must reclaim their godliness that men have masked or forever they will remain the worn carpet that men tread without second thought upon. It is time for women to take the power they already hold – to be proud of their gender, to take the power of demeaning slurs away just as the black peoples have and turn it into a word of defiant definition of pride; one that no one other than their own can use: just as the word nigger before, let cunt be a feminine cry of battle.